Michigan Father Custody

By Brent Delaurentis

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In Michigan, father custody arrangements are becoming increasingly common. That's because neither sex is inherently better than the other with children overall; much more important is the basic moral fiber and economic position of each parent. If you are a Michigan father, custody may be awarded to you if you make sure that you look better to the court, morally and economically, than the mother. Arrangements are usually made in the best interests of the child.

Start by arranging your arguments. You need to be able to tell the court, coherently and without hesitation, why you are a great custodial parent for your child and why your ex is not so good. Do this with complete honesty and respect for everyone. The great thing about telling the truth: not only does it make it impossible to be caught in a lie, but it is also easy to use truth without looking like a jerk - and child custody court is often all about appearances.

Present yourself personally as well as you can. This means dressing well, grooming so that you look as clean-cut as possible, and speaking softly and with respect, but with strength and conviction. This may take some practice, especially if there are very strong emotions mixed up in your court case. That's fine. Stand in front of a full-length mirror every day for a few minutes and rehearse what you want to say to the judge until it becomes natural. Also while practicing, it's a good idea to change what you are saying each time you say it; this keeps it from sounding rehearsed.

Use good body language. Stand tall and confidently. Again, look at yourself in the mirror and think about your ex. Do you look angry? Change the things about your body and face that make you look angry: relax your face and re-set it in a more gentle expression, unclench your fists, and shake out your arms. Most angry posturing is due to muscle tension; focus on relaxing a little until that, too, becomes natural. Your Michigan father custody case may hinge on how you come across without even speaking, so remember: this is a critical skill for you.

Don't give her a chance to play gotcha. Even though you suddenly have the life of a single man again, don't start going out every night just because you can, and especially don't use drinking and womanizing as a pressure valve. If you need a pressure valve, try working out or, well, anything but partying. Support groups may be of assistance to you as you struggle to put your life back together as a single man.

Don't be afraid of seeking out help. Though custody therapy can be used against you in court, total honesty about it will defuse the problem and make you look like a smart person, not a weak one. A good therapist can help you work through the anger and find ways of parenting as a single father, as well as adust your life to that of a single man.

If it comes up in court, tell them exactly that: in order to deal with these new changes as quickly and efficiently as possible, you sought out some advice, and it's really helping you learn how you can be the best single father in the world.

Brent Delaurentis is a father of a 6 year old girl and webmaster of [http://www.brents-child-custody-blog.com]The Child Custody Blog. Because he went through a long and painful custody battle he knows exactly how parents who have to go through this feel. Learn more about Brent and How He Won His Custody Case And How You Can Win Yours By Clicking [http://www.child-custody-strategies.com]Here

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